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Trying out new sexual practices is always interesting. And the choice is vast! So, why not try lesser known practices and discover new pleasures, such as anilingus? What is this practice? You would like to know more about it and especially to become master of this not so common practice, but nevertheless very interesting (believe me!). Well, we are going to explain you everything so that you can become the king of the anilingus! Ready to go? Let’s go!
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The basics of the “trick”
First of all, don’t worry if you only have a very vague notion of what anilingus is. It is true that this practice remains confidential, even if lately it is becoming more and more known. We can see some of it in BDSM games for those who like these experiences, but also in porn videos.
Its purpose? Stimulate the anal area for pleasure. It is also known as anilingus, anilinctus or even more poetically as rose leaf or rose petal (don’t look for it, the name comes from the shape of the anus). In the United States, it is called Rimjob.
Even if you haven’t thought about it yet, you should know that it is a practice that can give you intense pleasure and lead you to orgasm, provided of course that you practice with skill.
Before you start, a couple of things to remember. Anilingus requires a lot of care in the field of hygiene (I won’t explain why, it seems quite clear!). So don’t forget the shower! You can also perform an anal enema. If your partner agrees, do it yourself to stir up the desire. Don’t forget to wash the nearby vaginal area. If you let yourself go a little outside the rectal boundaries, you’ll be glad you thought of it.
But even if you’re clean as a whistle, this area may still need protection to avoid STDs. A dental dam can be very useful (if you practice cunnilingus, you already know).
The anus, as well as the perineum very close to it, are incredibly sensitive areas, even if they “wake up” a little more slowly than the genital areas
It is also important to know that the anus does not produce fluid for lubrication. So for more comfort, you can use a specific lubricant to facilitate play if you want to penetrate the area with your tongue. For even more pleasure, you can also use a scented (and naturally edible) gel.
A perfect anilingus
Well, I’m not going to surprise you if I tell you that the main part of the action takes place in the buttocks and what they hide. Neither you nor your partner should be embarrassed with this (whether you are the one doing it or the one receiving it).
You should not surprise your partner, who should be willing to discover this practice, naturally. So that both partners get in condition, do not hesitate to caress the buttocks, to kiss them, in short to stimulate this zone without forgetting the others obviously. Approach your hands to the anus gradually. According to your partner, you know what pleases him or her, so go ahead. She (or he) must feel safe to offer you this particularly intimate area. It’s all about naughty play that should give pleasure (and pleasure).
Now it’s time to use your lethal weapon: your tongue. Start licking gently around the anus, tickling the buttocks. Make circles. You can vary the pleasure by alternating fast and slow speed. Gradually move closer to the anus. Follow your partner’s rhythm and observe their reactions. The anilingus will lead your tongue to the anus itself. It can stop there. But you can also insert your tongue into the anus.
That’s the basics. But you probably still have a lot of questions about how to do it right. For example, should you stimulate the clitoris at the same time as you move towards the eldorado? The answer is not simple since it will depend on the lady. Some like it, some don’t. See how she reacts.
Knowing how to use your tongue is also important (it does a lot of the work). To double the pleasure, be generous! Lick around her anus and gently guide your tongue inside. Once penetrated, she’ll be able to simulate penetration with back-and-forth movements.
Use your tongue and its 17 muscles to vary the sensations. You can use your tongue flat to caress a large surface. You can also use the tip of your tongue to tickle a specific spot. You can go back and forth horizontally or vertically, turn your tongue, make it do small strokes. You have an imagination, use it!
Is there an optimal position for anilingus? No, actually. You do it the way you want. The key is to be perfectly comfortable. You can lie down, kneel down… No discomfort should disturb the act, that’s all.
Does this seem simple enough to you? No doubt, but you will not be master of the game (and king of the game) immediately. Do not dream! Like any sexual act, it is essential (let’s repeat it) to listen to the other. Even more so than for more widespread practices such as sodomy, because anilingus remains for many a rather reprehensible act.
So for a perfect anilingus, it is imperative above all to share and to look at the other. After that, it will go by itself and you will see that she (or he) will ask for more! This is a practice that you can easily integrate before a sodomy or after a penetration. It is an effective preliminary to vary the pleasures and not to neglect any zone.
Little extras?
Just like with the classic sex act, the pleasure can be increased tenfold by using the right accessories. Your tongue is not the only one that can explore these unknown areas. You can also use certain sex toys such as an anal plug.
If your partner is scared, but curious, reassure her. Why not watch a hot video together. This will be reassuring and will give you a guide not to do anything wrong.
