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Does your girlfriend want to invite your best friend into your bed for a sexual threesome? Don’t panic, let’s go over the positives and negatives, the risks, but also the benefits that this could bring to your relationship.
How to react when your girlfriend wants a threesome with your best friend?
Threesomes are sexual acts performed by three people. Often, it involves a couple asking for a third partner to have fun in bed. It’s an opportunity to spice up the sexual act, but not only as I will present you later. On the web, you will find acronyms that deal with the subject: HFF to qualify a relationship between a man and two women. HHF to talk about a relationship between two men and one woman. These terms are frequently used in descriptions of pornographic videos.
If your wife, partner, or girlfriend suggests a threesome with your best friend, I advise you not to be afraid. This experience should never be done on a whim. It is initiated by a dialogue between the two members of the couple and then with the third partner. Even if you don’t want this experience to happen, you need to talk to your friend and understand why she has this desire. Don’t judge her, try to understand her.
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You have every right to refuse a threesome with your best friend. In threesomes, the sexual relationship must always be based on respect for the consent of both partners. If you’re both up for this exciting adventure, you need to agree on some simple, specific rules to follow throughout the experience. This can be the time to agree on the use of any sexual objects to be included in the game and especially to discuss protection.
Together, you must agree on everything that will revolve around this moment of libertinage. The place of the meeting is important. Some will be easier to realize this fantasy at home while others will have more ease if the meeting takes place in a hotel. Define barriers that should not be crossed and of course a “password” to let your partner know that you want to end the experience. It is very important that one or the other member of the couple is not subjected to this moment which can be a source of pleasure only for one of them. Delimit the action again in time. A single meeting or several, depending on the result.
Positive and negative points of a threesome with your best friend
The pros
Routine can be poisonous to your relationship. A threesome could be an opportunity to rekindle the flame. It also allows you to play it straight by avoiding the catastrophic situation of infidelity, but also guilt. The fervor can be rekindled within your couple thanks to this sparkling opportunity.
The choice of the best friend presents, depending on the profile, a certain security. You know the person and can already have a certain complicity between the three of you. It is also a guarantee of confidence in the transmission of possible sexual diseases. By watching from the outside your spouse take pleasure with another man, you can identify some of her reactions to innovative gestures. This is an opportunity to discover what she may be expecting. It is above all a pleasure trio that must be realized through this relationship.
A sexual relationship with three strengthens the complicity in a couple. Daring a new experience often reinforces the connection and thus the blooming. And then the taste of the forbidden instills an atmosphere of excitement between you. The lifting of inhibitions blows like a new wind on your couple. Indeed, the forbidden, the taboos, are sometimes brakes to the pleasure and the blooming of the partners. Triolism is really a way to let the inner desires of the members of a couple express themselves.
From a technical point of view, you will agree with me that the forces to give orgasms are increased tenfold. It is an effective way to give your partner even more pleasure. It is also an opportunity for her to give twice as much pleasure! Let’s not neglect this fact!
The cons
During this triolist experience, your other half may feel more attracted to your best friend. In rare cases, this may be a sign of her passion for him or the fact that she has grown tired of your relationship. Sometimes this desire is a sign of a deeper disinterest in your relationship and turning to another, even with you, is a way to seek excitement.
The medium and long term risks
In the medium or long term, triolism can push the couple to separate. One of the major risks is surely that one of the partners of the couple discovers that he or she needs much more to fulfill himself or herself sexually, but also emotionally. He may choose to find the third person alone and in secret.
The friendship with your best friend may deteriorate. He or she may have hated the experience or feel guilty. Worse, he or she may fall in love with your partner. One member of the couple may still feel uncomfortable in future, more traditional interactions. In any case, this experience of triolism with your best friend will necessarily evolve your couple, but also your relationship with him.
The opportunities for your couple
The opportunities for your couple are also real. We cannot deny them. Triolism is a way to realize an exciting fantasy and to develop your complicity. Even if you won’t necessarily do it again in the future, this experience can reinforce the trust within your couple. Indeed, confiding your fantasies to each other and engaging in the quest for mutual satisfaction through triolism can be a liberating step between the two partners. The complicity is multiplied by ten. I really invite you to be sincere with your partner.
Triolism is undoubtedly an experience that allows you to better understand the desires of the other and even to discover yourself. If it is a shared and well thought-out wish, this relationship will generate great opportunities for your couple.
Bottom line
Now you know what to do if your girlfriend wants to have a threesome with your best friend. The important thing is to listen to your partner’s wishes without accepting or refusing at first. I really encourage you to listen to each other. You should also listen to your own desires and not force yourself. Depending on the situation, consider what the advantages and opportunities are for your couple and then decide together.
