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We often hear about mature, seductive and particularly attractive women in front of whom these gentlemen succumb. And this under more or less pleasant terms. Among these two hold my attention today: MILF and Cougar. Often confused, they do not correspond to the same thing. Let’s see what the difference is.
The origin of the two terms
Before going into more detail, let’s look at the history of these two words. Both of them first appeared in the United States in the 1990s. It was there that they were used before arriving on our continent and starting to make a breakthrough, first the term cougar and then a few years later the term MILF.
Cougar has a rather vague origin. It is now admitted that if we associate this term to a mature woman “easygoing” (this is to be nuanced of course) it is because of a Canadian ice hockey team that used the word cougar in the 1980s to designate mature women who were fans of the players and wanted to spend a little naughty time with them.
The term became popular and began to be used in everyday life. In the 1990s, it was used by an Internet dating site for mature women looking for a soul mate.
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MILF appeared, as for him, later. It was first mentioned in the famous movie American Pie (the first one in 1999). The term is actually an acronym: Mother I would Like to Fuck, or more politely “a mother I would like to sleep with”. The word arrived in France a few years later.
These two “types of women” refer to a woman who is older than the man she is having a relationship with. For indeed, there is a very present sex aspect in these terms. You’re not a MILF or a cougar if you just have younger buddies!
The pornographic industry has greatly contributed to the development of these terms. The cougar has become a star of these movies, an ultra-sexy predator who acts to get the man where she wants him (I’ll let you guess). The MILF is then the opposite. She is presented as a woman who attracts the eye, but who does nothing to and does not act to act. She has a little forbidden side (like an Oedipus complex, you know?).
The cougar in detail
Like the MILF, the cougar can be found anywhere. It is generally accepted that this woman has an age ranging from 40 to 60 years. Her particularity? She loves to sleep with much younger men (between 10 and 30 years younger than her). It is above all her attitude that will define her as such. She’s not shy about it if you know what I mean. She’s going to have a more teasing demeanor. She is confident and generally successful in her professional life. She has been married or is still married. She likes to dominate and direct relationships so she’s the one who acts. This is a key concept in the definition of the word.
The relationship with a cougar may or may not be long term. The cougar is known to be an experienced woman who is just looking for the fun in life. She wants to be charismatic. In the collective imagination, she is represented by a high-functioning business executive who wants a younger lover to live a new, pleasure-oriented life.
The lady will look for her relations in her close circle (friends’ sons, entourage…). She can keep their affair secret or not. It is she who chooses.
Many dating sites specialize in the relationship with a cougar. Cougar dating parties are also increasingly organized. Cougar dating is also featured in TV shows such as Cougar Town or in celebrity magazines with, among others, Madonna, a well-known star and cougar.
Learn more about the MILF
Let’s talk about the MILF now. Let’s look at the commonalities first. Well, to simplify, we can say that it is mainly the age of the lady that plays. Of course, even if you can be a mother at 16 (it is then difficult to be 10 years younger than her!), a MILF is considered as such when she is older. The general idea is that she seduces above all her child’s buddies. The latter must be of an age to be initiated to sexuality (or even older). The lady must therefore be over 35 years old on average to be able to enter the “brotherhood”. The MILF remains a MILF until she is about 55 years old.
The MILF, as we have already said, does nothing to seduce the other. She doesn’t do it on purpose! She associates the reassuring maternal image with seduction. It is possible to meet her at the exit of the school or the university, while shopping… She can be married or not, or divorced. But in any case, she is a terribly sexy mother (at least that’s the image that the film industry wants to give) of one or more children. She may or may not act out with the enamored young man. Being a MILF does not necessarily imply sexuality. The MILF can indeed remain a fantasy.
The middle-aged lady is for these young youths, a person who knows what she wants and does not procrastinate. The mother of his best buddy is also an unparalleled success. She is experienced and must be fabulous. The MILF is above all beautiful. Since as I said before, she does nothing to attract.
Another point defines the MILF! She seems unattainable. She has to take care of her children and her husband. This leaves little free time for trifling. And if the lady deigns to take a look at you, it’s an incomparable victory! But let’s remember, the MILF is not doing anything to have a relationship. Let’s just say that she “suffers” the fact of being attractive (yes, I know, it’s an exaggeration, but it gives you a good idea of the thing).
The differences between MILF and cougar?
You have all the keys in hand to find the differences between these two categories yourself. To make things easier for you, let me help you.
The cougar will seek sexual adventure and will do everything to achieve it. She will behave and/or dress in a way that shows who she is and what she wants. The MILF, no.
It is also common to say that the cougar is slightly older than the MILF and that she is more liberated in appearance than her counterpart. That’s it, it’s simple!
